A, Post-Pentecost 15 Proper 18 - Matthew 18:15-20 "Binding and Loosing"
When someone sins against you, what do you do?
Is it difficult being open about how someone’s actions have
affected or are affecting you? Even if
they approach you, confess and apologise, it’s usually dismissed embarrassingly
with, “Ah, that’s alright!” When both of
you know very well it’s not alright because you’ve been hurt and they’ve seen
the need to say sorry!
If your brother, neighbour, spouse, or family wrongs you,
sometimes there’s not enough peace within to go and confront them about the
offence without it being relived in you.
So how does one even begin the task of putting right the wrong, and the
relationship between you and your neighbour?
Besides, it seems naming being wronged as sin is
inappropriate these days. It’s as if
everyone has the right to do as they please and say what they want, not being
accountable or correctable despite the hurt it might cause. Nevertheless, living as a community and
caring for each other out of love for Christ require us to put aside our
rights, silence our voices, and serve each other in submission with our ears
and our hearts in the true servanthood mission of Jesus Christ, Who serves us
by putting our wrongs right at the cross.
You see, when sin is kept hidden and is not named, it
retains its stinging power. Therefore,
many of us don’t even get to first base with this text, going to fellow
believers and lovingly telling them of their fault that has caused us pain, let
alone working through the steps laid out to mediate a restoration of the
relationship through Christ’s forgiveness of us all.
Rather, what happens when a person sins against someone
these days? The one sinned against
allows themself to smoulder, to the extent that he or she cannot go to the
other person and name the sin. The sin
cannot be buried, and rather than going and seeking others to help with the
situation, sin is allowed to ripple out from the original offence, in extreme
cases destroying congregational or family unity. The recipient of sin now becomes the
perpetrator in retaliation by bearing false witness, gossiping, and
assassinating the character of the original perpetrator. Thus, sin gives birth to sin.
Our society is overrun by “smiling assassins” who politely
smile to one’s face but stab one in the back once the face is turned. It seems we have got it completely back to
front in our individualistic, so-called “politically correct” world today. The result is that we are all pushed further
and further apart, and this seemingly polite interaction is really devilish
dishonesty, causing community living to become more and more dysfunctional and
fractured.
There’s a way to stop this from happening, however! Our relationships in the church and in our
everyday lives with others are curable.
This way will restore peace and bring a real and true peace back to your
relationships – with neighbours, family, your spouse, church members, and even
your enemies.
All believers are given a mighty weapon to combat the
assassins “out there” in our relationships as well as the assassin within
ourselves, so we might be able to approach others with the love of Christ to
restore our relationships.
This weapon is the omnipotent, all-powerful name of Jesus
Christ. This weapon is prayer in Jesus’
name. Its power is so rich and enormous,
yet a small child can wield this weighty weapon.
Jesus tells us, “Truly, I say to you, whatever you bind on
earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed
in heaven. Again I say to you, if two of
you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by My
Father in heaven. For where two or three
are gathered in My name, there am I among them.” (Matthew 18:18–20 ESV)
It seems we need to know what requires binding and what
requires loosing. In this mixed-up world
we get bound up in sinful acts, yet these very sins are allowed to remain
unbound and free to continue wreaking havoc, destroying relationships long
after they’re committed.
This is what happens when we do things in our name: praying
to ourselves, muttering under our breath and talking to ourselves, as though we
were holding a staff meeting within that serves and joins in with the
unrepentant, unforgiving ways of the world, in reverence to our rights. Putting ourselves first, relationships are
hindered, and we further serve ourselves as lonely, love-starved individuals in
this age of individualism and death.
On the other hand, when we rely on Jesus’ name and not our
own, we are loosed; He unties us from our sin and the cross of eternal death
and damnation. Yet our sins are named,
exposed, forgiven and bound to the cross!
We’re freed to live with the promise that we’re eternally bound and tied
to Jesus’ death and resurrection for an eternity in heaven.
Despite our constant inner struggle here on earth, between
the sinful nature and our new being in Jesus Christ, you and I can be confident
the right things are being eternally loosed, and the wrong things are already
bound to the cross.
The all-powerful name of Jesus Christ runs contrary to our
individualistic thinking, causing a congregation to gather, constantly
recreating a community of love, freed to be people of God wielding the weapon
of prayer! Imparting forgiveness, peace,
confidence, calmness, faith, hope, and love in a world which dearly needs these
things.
Still, there are many in God’s church who don’t have a
whole lot of faith in prayer. Perhaps
you struggle to pray because you find it difficult, or you just think it’s a
waste of time. Yet we hear in Scripture
of Jesus being alone in prayer for much of His ministry on earth while being
prepared for the cross. One might ponder
why He needed to pray, since He is “God the Son”!
Consider this: Jesus gave up His godliness, His divinity,
and became nothing, relying completely on the Father in all He was called to
do. Jesus displayed the same
helplessness as we do. But rather than
fall into sin as we do, He remained sinless, yet bore our sin, helpless on the
cross. So now our help is in the name of the Lord, and our helplessness is
overcome by God’s powerful hand working when we ask Him to in prayer.
Therefore, the first rule of prayer is having this same
“blessed attitude” of helplessness as did Jesus. In knowing our helplessness, we might see the
common helplessness of ourselves and others and freely name sin with the desire
to forgive it and receive forgiveness for it.
Knowing our helplessness also leads us to draw on God’s
mercy in restoring the relationship with those who have wronged us and those
whom we have wronged. We can call on Him
in our need to open our ears and hearts to each other, so compassion flows
again, words are not misheard, and new sins are not committed.
The second rule of prayer is to pray in Jesus’ name or for
Jesus’ sake. As mentioned above, when we
do this, we are tapping into an all-powerful source of existence. Jesus continues His work of praying for us
after the resurrection before the Father in heaven, and by allowing the Holy
Spirit to connect us to the prayerful work of Jesus in heaven, peace and power
will flow through our prayers in Jesus’ name and for Jesus’ sake!
The third rule of prayer is to name our need or the needs
of others without believing that we need to help Him answer the prayer. God doesn’t need us to tell Him how to fix
the problem; He just needs us to ask Him for help. He knows how to fix every problem even before
we ask Him.
The fourth and final rule of prayer is that we don’t need
to make use of prayer as a means of commanding God to move according to our
will and timeframe. When we do this, we
just set ourselves up for a fall. God
knows what we need before we ask for it, whether for ourselves or on behalf of
someone else. We need to leave “the
when” and “the how” up to God! We must
remember that we are asking Him because of our helplessness. How quickly we pray, leave it up to God, but
yank it back through unbelief!
God answers all prayers prayed in Jesus’ name or for Jesus’
sake. Unfortunately, unbelief causes us
to miss seeing them answered.
Perhaps a starting point for all who struggle with prayer
is to ask God in prayer to help us in our unbelief: “I believe, Lord; save me
from my unbelief!” Then we allow God to
bind the sin and the unbelieving sinful nature within and to free us so that the
Holy Spirit can lead us to pray with deeper and deeper trust in a faithful
Saviour with Whom we join when we pray in faith. It pleases God our Father that our prayers
give Him the glory and freedom so He can act as God in our lives, rather than
our prayers failing because we seek to stand without the help He wants to
provide.
We who pray for others would also do well to pray for our
own perseverance and patience, that God might give us enduring peace and
confidence in His omnipotence and the power of prayer in Jesus’ name. In allowing this to occur within, we’re
loosed and set free from binding ourselves and committing spiritual suicide.
And rather than assassinating the character of those who
have sinned against us, we faithfully ask God to send the Holy Spirit into our
hearts to counsel us in Christ, saving both of us from ourselves, assassinating
and binding our sin so we can loose each other and our relationships.
When someone sins against you, what do you do? We can be secret agents wielding a weapon of
great power. We can be assassins binding
sin and forgivers loosing sinners. This
is true prayer in Jesus’ name and its use binds us together as one for Jesus’
sake. Amen!
Sermon Summary
When sin wounds a relationship, hiding the offence or
retaliating through gossip allows sin to spread and fracture the community.
Jesus offers another way: name sin truthfully, seek reconciliation, forgive as
we have been forgiven, and pray in His powerful name. Through Christ’s death
and resurrection, sin is bound to the cross and sinners are loosed from guilt,
condemnation and the desire for revenge. Prayer begins with an honest
recognition of our helplessness, trusts Jesus’ intercession, names the need without
telling God how to answer, and leaves the timing and outcome in His hands. As
the Holy Spirit strengthens faith, God forms His people into a community of
forgiveness, peace, patience and restored relationships.
Reflection Questions
- When someone sins against you, what is your usual response: silence, retaliation, avoidance, honest conversation, or prayer?
- Is there a hurt you have kept hidden that now needs to be named truthfully and lovingly?
- How might gossip, resentment or self-protection be allowing sin to spread beyond the original offence?
- What does it mean for you that Jesus has bound your sin to the cross and loosed you from guilt and condemnation?
- Which of the sermon’s four principles of prayer do you find most difficult: admitting helplessness, praying in Jesus’ name, naming the need without prescribing the answer, or trusting God’s timing?
- Where are you tempted to take a prayer back into your own hands rather than leave “the when” and “the how” with God?
- How could the Holy Spirit help you listen with greater compassion to someone who has hurt you?
- Is there someone from whom you need to seek forgiveness or to whom you need to offer forgiveness?
- What practical step can you take this week towards reconciliation, peace or patient prayer?
- How can your congregation become a community where sin is named with love, confesses with faithfulness, and forgiveness is freely given for Jesus’ sake?
